dealing with disappointment

Nyota Juane
2 min readApr 1, 2021

Having high expectations is a great recipe for disappointment.

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Disappointment is giving 100% and still failing.

Disappointment is giving your all and still not getting there.

You’re kind of there, but not really. Almost but not truly.

Disappointment is working hard and the results still aren’t there.

Disappointment is executing each and every day but still, nothing.

No matter how much you try, you still fail.

The people around you can’t relate. They believe you can get through anything. You are strong.

Verbalizing failure is hard.

Vulnerability is hard. It’s basically giving someone the keys to break your heart and hold that vulnerability against you.

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In the end, you end up breaking your own heart. The expectations you set for yourself are no longer being met and those around you expect you to pick yourself up.

So you sit in silence.

Struggling in silence, unable to verbalize the pain and suffering you are enduring. Nowhere to turn for help.

You don’t wish to bring anyone down, but you are also aware that they simply won’t get it.

You fail to acknowledge that disappointment occurs; dealing with the aftermath is even harder.

You are the individual that helps others; yet, you are unable to help yourself.

You know that you’ll fail when you help yourself.

Helpless, you come to the realization that you’re somewhat useless. You can’t help yourself so you make up for it by helping those around you.

Disappointment is all you feel and it’s starting to physically drain you.

Maybe it’s time to fill up your own cup instead of trying to fill the cup of others when your own cup is empty. By helping yourself first, you’ll have the strength to aid the ones near you.

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Nyota Juane

Just enjoy it! Writer on Psychology, Self-Evaluation, Individualism, Empathy, and more